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Falling in love is a magical
familiarity that happens between two people. So why do people fall in love? lecturer Arthur Aron from State institution of higher education of New York at Stonybrook has been exploring the dynamics of what happens when two people are falling in love.
As human beings is to expand the self and to enlarge our ability and our effectiveness.
One of the ways we carry out this is through our relationships with other people. We have learned in our study that it is important to feel that you have the ability to be an effective person, mainly in our relations
The circumstances are best for meeting someone and falling in love
. When you meet someone under environment that are highly arousing — a political demonstration, turbulence on a plane, a stimulating act — a time when the body is enthused and thrilled, we tend to experience magnetism at a heightened level. This effect is well documented but the explanations for it are very notorious. I tend to believe that we come to associate the arousal of the situation with this person and our own self-expansion.
The time when we do fall in love
. similar to what most people think, the statistics show that most people fall in love with someone that they have known for a while. People only report falling in love rapidly about 1/3 to 40 percent of the time. Of course, this varies from civilization to civilization. Falling in love happens differently between cultures but it does occur in most cultures.
Two most main characteristics
, kindness and intelligence, are very important in the process of falling in love. And good looks is not connected to these things. These two attributes are things that people learn about someone from knowing them over time. Intelligence is important in all aspects of life, especially in love. But kindness is the strongest indicator for a successful long-term relationship.
